Sexual healing
Sex advice from Pamela Stephenson Connolly, a US-based psychotherapist specialising in sexual disorders. Each week, Pamela chooses one problem to answer, which will be published online and in print. She regrets that she cannot enter into personal correspondence.
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He has completely lost his sex drive and says he can’t imagine us ever resuming this part of our lives. But I love him immensely, and am still hopeful
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We have been together for five years and were once sexually active and adventurous, but my partner has become closed off
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We don’t live in the same country, but know we are perfect for each other. With no end in sight, the situation is so frustrating
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We were together for 13 years and planned to move in together. But now I feel I can no longer trust him
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I have always preferred younger partners, but now that I am getting older I think other people are getting judgmental
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I have always enjoyed a good sex life – until last week, when I found that I couldn’t reach a climax. Is this to be expected because of my age?
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At the start of every relationship, I am sexually active, but then I retreat and start to find fault with my partner
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After 40 years of marriage, she is looking for a ‘friend with benefits’. Where can we find a sexual partner she can trust?
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We were very sexually active for our first two years together. But there’s no passion any more, and I need more than her occasional: ‘We should have sex tonight’
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I’ve tried showing him what I like in bed, but it hasn’t helped, and now I actively avoid sex. After 12 years of an otherwise wonderful partnership, I don’t know what else to do
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He says he lacked confidence in his previous relationship and has been rejected many times, but his silence has me worried. How can I make him feel more confident?
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We had a passionate sex life when we first met, but since moving in together, things have changed a lot, leaving me feeling rejected
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While we were all looking through old family images, up popped one of my husband in all his glory. Should we discuss this with our 13-year-old or pretend it never happened?
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I’ve had a string of failed relationships and I’ve been devastated by an ex-partner’s revelation and an STI diagnosis. I can’t imagine anyone would want to sleep with me again
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He has been wonderfully supportive as I have recovered from an abusive relationship. But now I want to get back to the sexually confident woman I used to be
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I am in my early 40s; she is in her mid-50s. We don’t want to betray our partners – will that end badly?
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I am too embarrassed to talk to my partner, but think we have both noticed that something has changed. What can I do?
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He is happy to talk about the situation – and I don’t wish to make him anxious – but is there anything I can do to improve things?
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He is finding it difficult to manage sex five days in a row and is feeling increasingly under pressure. What can we do?
Topics
I have never struggled to get an erection – until now. What’s going on?